I am doing some reading and thinking about this coming Sunday's (5-25-08) message and have just come across a list of "Rules for a Fair Fight". It is helpful information that will be beneficial to friendships, marriages and families. The list is to be applied when working through conflict in a relationship and desiring a healthy, mutual agreement so that the relationship can grow and be a vibrant experience for all involved. have fun learning and growing.1. Identify the issue.
2. Choose the right time.
3. Choose the right place.
4. Begin with a positive stroke.
5. Stick to the issue.
6. Do not bring up the past.
7. Do not hit below the belt.
8. Take the other seriously.
9. Express anger nonabusively.
10. Do not play games.
11. Do not be passively aggresive.
12. Avoid asking for explanation of behaviors.
13. Avoid labeling and name calling.
14. Avoid Triangles (Do not bring others in to conflict you are seeking to settle).
This is good stuff. This is taken from The Family by Jack and Judith Balswick.
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